A verb that deletes specific information in any way as to how, when or where is called in NLP Unspecified Verb. Unspecified Verbs are verbs (the doing part) in a sentence that don’t fully describe the action taking place. They don’t give enough information to let you know what is going on for them. People usually fill in the gap with their own experience – called Mind Reading. When people use unspecified verbs, all it means is that they do not have the descriptive way of representing what they mean and/or understand.
We risk wasting time creating something that doesn’t suit the purpose and where we do not want to go is to waste our valuable time. So, to gain more accurate information regarding her request and to avoid ending up using a mind reading misinterpreting her question, challenge her question by asking the question “Which report do you want, specifically?”
Some examples of Simple Deletion
Below are some “statements” immediately followed by an example how to challenge this simple deletion, just to tune up your hearing in future conversations. NLP Simple Deletion.
- I loved some of the food – What food specifically?
- I like some workout, on certain days – Which workout, on which days?
- Give me an update on it – An update on what, specifically? NLP Simple Deletion.
- I love listening to it – Listening to what, specifically?
- They have experience in it for ages – Experience in what, specifically? NLP Simple Deletion.
So, to gather more information about this pattern, you can ask questions like:
- Who are you talking about?
- When did this happen? NLP Simple Deletion.
- What do you mean, specifically?
Just as a hint, to put you in the mode of investigation, think of the famous actor Colombo. He always had one of the most smartest questions available. Put on your investigation hat and start asking for more information. NLP Simple Deletion.
Remember, this pattern can be easily over-done, so use it covertly and well addressed, so you get the most of your questions! As exercise today; Write down 20 Simple Deletions and their Challenging questions and start listening in every discussion, the whole day for Simple Deletions. Maybe you can challenge one or two?
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